Kali my 2nd born
Kali, my dear Kali! This girl has taught me more in the 6 years of life then I could have ever learned any other way. She is beautiful, the life of any party, yet so stubborn. She almost always has a smile on her face and people love being her friend. She makes friends easy and she loves fiercely. She is just getting out of Kindergarten but is reading books like Billy B Brown, Mo Williams books with Elephant and Piggy, or many others with almost no problems. I help with maybe a few words but other than that she reads it all by herself.
She probably gets more attention than anyone in our family due to the fact that she deals with incontinence, yet it's not always positive attention. We are working on this. She has never been able to keep her panties dry for a whole day. It's been a VERY LONG process of trying to figure out how to help this child of my who is so smart figure out how to go to the bathroom in the potty every single time. I keep praying someday we will figure it out but after 3 years of lots of doctors, chiropractors, physical therapist, urologists, blood tests, tonsillectomy, an MRI, I feel we may be a little closer to finding a solution. She takes a muscle control medicine 3 times a day which does help but it doesn't solve the issue. She also takes a probiotic and fiber gummies. She still has so many problems every day. I wish I could take the pain, hurt, discouragement away but as of now it truly doesn't seem to bother her pride a whole lot. I mean she gets mad at me for making her go potty all the time but overall she seems to deal with it pretty well. Even though I know it is harder for her than she lets on she keeps up pretty good spirits. Tomorrow starts summer! This summer my goal is to increase how much water she drinks, eat a LOT more fiber which should help her poop better, and to do exercises on her bladder regularly. Oh and I should mention the urologist believed for the 1st year of going to see her that Kali's issues were 100% due to constipation. If we could fix that then she would go pee in the potty more often. Well honestly I don't think that is the case. While it could be a contributing factor it is not the sole problem. She did a test called urodynamics and it showed that her bladder contracts when it shouldn't. Which goes to show that there really is a bigger issue going on. But the Doctors don't seem to have a "FIX" so she said she would just have to be on medicine for the rest of her life. I'm hoping with time we can get her off the medicine. So yes complicated issues and not a problem I ever thought I would have to deal with. That and also I have gotten judged or felt judge because of it from SO many people. Yes I have 4 children and no I can't take away their agency. No matter how much I push, yell, get mad, or frustrated it doesn't change the fact that my daughter still pees her pants and that she literally can't control it. It also doesn't change the fact that she has to make the decision herself to deal with these issues and own up to her problems. She has to want to change and be willing to do whatever she can to help. Right now I think she just doesn't care enough. While it is a true medical problem I think she could do so much better than she does if she would try more and not get frustrated about having to go potty more than most kids.
In this blog you will probably hear a lot about the day to day with Kali, because it is one of the hardest struggles I deal with as a Mom. The first story I will share is about brand new carpet.
We are trying to keep out house clean so that we can sell it. Kali wanted to sleep on the floor on a blanket so I put a square pad down and she wears pull-ups. Well that night she forgot to put on a pull-up so I go in to the room where she was sleeping and she had peed off the pad and onto the bran new carpet we just got put in our home a couple weeks ago. So I grab my handy Norwex cloths and went to town scrubbing the best I could. It took quite a while and I was pretty irritated. After scrubbing for a while couldn't smell it anymore so I just had to call it good, but it was so incredibly frustrating. Then she missed the bus so I had to take her and as you can probably see life with Kali is an adventure every single day. I just pray we both survive this process and come out on top and emotionally stable.
She probably gets more attention than anyone in our family due to the fact that she deals with incontinence, yet it's not always positive attention. We are working on this. She has never been able to keep her panties dry for a whole day. It's been a VERY LONG process of trying to figure out how to help this child of my who is so smart figure out how to go to the bathroom in the potty every single time. I keep praying someday we will figure it out but after 3 years of lots of doctors, chiropractors, physical therapist, urologists, blood tests, tonsillectomy, an MRI, I feel we may be a little closer to finding a solution. She takes a muscle control medicine 3 times a day which does help but it doesn't solve the issue. She also takes a probiotic and fiber gummies. She still has so many problems every day. I wish I could take the pain, hurt, discouragement away but as of now it truly doesn't seem to bother her pride a whole lot. I mean she gets mad at me for making her go potty all the time but overall she seems to deal with it pretty well. Even though I know it is harder for her than she lets on she keeps up pretty good spirits. Tomorrow starts summer! This summer my goal is to increase how much water she drinks, eat a LOT more fiber which should help her poop better, and to do exercises on her bladder regularly. Oh and I should mention the urologist believed for the 1st year of going to see her that Kali's issues were 100% due to constipation. If we could fix that then she would go pee in the potty more often. Well honestly I don't think that is the case. While it could be a contributing factor it is not the sole problem. She did a test called urodynamics and it showed that her bladder contracts when it shouldn't. Which goes to show that there really is a bigger issue going on. But the Doctors don't seem to have a "FIX" so she said she would just have to be on medicine for the rest of her life. I'm hoping with time we can get her off the medicine. So yes complicated issues and not a problem I ever thought I would have to deal with. That and also I have gotten judged or felt judge because of it from SO many people. Yes I have 4 children and no I can't take away their agency. No matter how much I push, yell, get mad, or frustrated it doesn't change the fact that my daughter still pees her pants and that she literally can't control it. It also doesn't change the fact that she has to make the decision herself to deal with these issues and own up to her problems. She has to want to change and be willing to do whatever she can to help. Right now I think she just doesn't care enough. While it is a true medical problem I think she could do so much better than she does if she would try more and not get frustrated about having to go potty more than most kids.
In this blog you will probably hear a lot about the day to day with Kali, because it is one of the hardest struggles I deal with as a Mom. The first story I will share is about brand new carpet.
We are trying to keep out house clean so that we can sell it. Kali wanted to sleep on the floor on a blanket so I put a square pad down and she wears pull-ups. Well that night she forgot to put on a pull-up so I go in to the room where she was sleeping and she had peed off the pad and onto the bran new carpet we just got put in our home a couple weeks ago. So I grab my handy Norwex cloths and went to town scrubbing the best I could. It took quite a while and I was pretty irritated. After scrubbing for a while couldn't smell it anymore so I just had to call it good, but it was so incredibly frustrating. Then she missed the bus so I had to take her and as you can probably see life with Kali is an adventure every single day. I just pray we both survive this process and come out on top and emotionally stable.
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